Salt and Light

The Pitfalls of Comparison

Here are my notes from my teaching on 2/10/2013 at CORE at Church in Action...

A few weeks ago, I was in prayer and was having a difficult time letting some thoughts go regarding the direction of my life. The enemy seems to flood your life with so many distractions that will cloud your mind, bring confusion, and cause you to question God or grow bitter towards others and mess with your love walk. For me, because of the way I was raised and also the environment I spent a majority of my life in (theater/acting/performance), I was so used to looking at other people's lives and measuring my life with their's. Whether to make myself feel better or give myself a goal  to work towards. If you do not read the Word of God, this is how most people make decisions in life. They say, "Well, that's how so-and-so did it so that seems like a good plan." Or "So-and-so is just so successful in life, and seems to have everything they want. I will just follow what they did so I can have that kind of happiness and have those nice clothes, car, job, house, spouse, etc." Ulimately, you grow resentful towards others and envy starts to grow in your heart. Envy will cause you to look for reasons why you deserve what someone has.

But the problem with that mentality is this: COMPARISON EVENTUALLY LEADS TO UNGRATEFULNESS, WHICH EVENTUALLY LEADS TO SPIRITUAL DEATH (EMPTINESS OR A VOID IN YOUR HEART).

I've noticed over the last several years, Facebook, instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, and pretty much any other social media outlet is a huge door to comparison. Your eyes begin to get fixated on earthly things instead of things of the Kingdom and God's plan for your life and this messes with your decision-making. In regards to material things, you are now spending money you don't have and are not just now trying to "keep up with the Jones'" but everyone in the entire world! People's lives are constantly on display and it is a great temptation for us to become disatified and unthankful for what God has given us. We're not happy. Not only that, but we aren't happy for one another. "Everyone is getting married, having babies, getting an education, getting a house, getting a raise, a new job, a new car, pursuing their dreams, making connections to further their job/ministry, traveling, wearing the latest fashions, making more money, going on vacation, losing weight, AND WHY NOT ME?! IT'S NOT FAIR...WHAH, WHAH, WHAH!" and list could go on and on and on...

The moment you take that step into comparing your life with someone else's is the moment you will find yourself in a deep, empty pit. You will never be satisfied in life if you walk down that path. The enemy will tempt you and lead you to the very same pit that he was cast down into when he began to compare himself to God (we will talk more about this later...)

COMPARISON-->ENVY/COVETOUSNESS-->PRIDE-->SELFISHNESS-->BITTERNESS-->UNGRATEFULNESS

COMPARISON LEADING TO ENVY/COVETOUSNESS

PROVERBS 14:30 (KJV)
"A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rotteness of the bones."

SOUND in Hebrew is marpe= healing, remedy, calmness, wholesome, yielding

You can forget about living in peace or feeling complete or whole if you enter into the land of envy or covetousness.

JAMES 3:13-16 (NKJV)
"Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have the bitter envy and self-seeking (selfish ambition) in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there."

That kind of wisdom (verse 15) is the mentality of the world and James calls it demonic. We are not children the dark (Satan/demonic), but are children of light!

EPHESIANS 5:8-11 (NKJV) tells us what we are supposed to do as children of light
"For you were once in darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), finding out what is acceptable to the Lord. And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them."

Paul tells us also in Colossians about wisdom from above in Colossians:
"If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth." (Colossians 3:1-2)

He urges us to "put to death [our] members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience, in which you yourselves once walk when you lived in them." (Colossians 3:5-7)

When we were disobedient, we were "foolish, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful and hating one another." Titus 3:3 (NKJV)

Going back to Colossians "Covetousness, which is idolatry...": You are worshiping what you don't have. Whether that is material things, a person, or a situation, that thing, situation, person, position is now placed above God and God's plan for your life. You have made that thing, situation, person, or position an idol in your life. And we know what the Bible says about idolatry from what was given to us in the 10 Commandments. You have left trusting God and if you don't trust God, you are walking in your own understanding, walking your own way, and you are in PRIDE. You become self-centered and concerned too much about yourself and your life.

PHILIPPIANS 2:3-6a (NKJV)
"Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus..."

When we walk in selflessness and humble ourselves, God will give us grace. Proverbs 3:34b

LUSTS OF THE FLESH (LIST OF MAJOR SINS (which ENVY is listed among them) THAT WILL KEEP US FROM INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD: READ GALATIANS 5:16-26

All sin is based in selfishness. "Selfishness hinders the full power of God operating in your life." -Pastor Rochelle West

SELFISHNESS= concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others

Selfishness triggers the law of sin and death to operate in your life. The only way the law one can overcome the law is by love, which imitating God, who is love (love does not envy...it is not self-seeking...)

Ephesians 5:1-2 (NKJV)
"Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma."

This very act is the definition of selflessness and humbleness. And we are told to imitate this kind of love to our brothers and sisters.

Selfishness is rooted in fear as well-which is contaminated faith. Selfishness makes you bitter and ungrateful and you aren't operating in love at all. You are now completely disconnected from God. There is no way to please Him because all of those other sins comparison leads to have sucked the life out of your faith. (Hebrews 11:6) You are in danger of falling into a pit. The enemy has tempted you to fall straight down into a pit that he did when he was cast out of heaven.

READ EZEKIEL 28:12-19: a description of Lucifer/Satan
verse 15: "you were perfect in your ways from the day you were created, till iniquity was found in you."

PERFECT in Hebrew is tamim meaning without defect, blameless, without blemish, upright (righteous), with out spot, undefiled

Us- righteous,without blemish under the blood of Jesus=how God sees us
2 Corinthians 5:21 "God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God."

The enemy did not get that chance to be washed clean of his iniquity:
THE FALL OF LUCIFER
ISAIAH 14:12-15

This is why the enemy has used the trap of comparison since the fall of man.
GENESIS 3:4-5 "and you will be LIKE GOD."
ISAIAH 14: 14 "I will be LIKE GOD."

The motive behind their disobedience was comparison which lead to covetousness which lead to pride, which lead to selfishness, which lead to ungratefulness for what God had already provided (all rooted in fear) which lead to spiritual death.

In fear? You're not in faith. Anything that is not of faith is sin. (Romans 14:23) The wages of sin is death. (Romans 6:23) Spiritually, then eventually sometimes after disconnection from God and living as a son of disobedience, natural death.

When we compare ourselves with another, we are saying we would do a better job planning out our lives than our Creator, the Most High, acting like Satan who fell and caused Adam and Eve to fall. Whoa, that is a dangerous place to be!

We are all guilty of comparing our lives to someone else's life at one point or another. The only way out is to repent, plead the blood of Jesus over your life, and set your eyes on Jesus. The moment you compare your life with another, is the moment you have taken your eyes off of Jesus and you will sink. Keep your eyes on Jesus and His Word. Cling to Him, abide in Him, and you will remain full of love and nothing else can satisfy you. You won't want anything else than what He has for you. His promises for you will be more than enough. You will begin to trust God with all of your heart and lean on His understanding, not your own. When we do that, He will direct our paths and He will never lead us astray. Ultimately  we've been given the choice of how to walk through life. We can choose to be thankful or ungrateful, selfish and bitter, or generous and loving. It is up to us. We can be like Paul when he said, "Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content; I know how to be abased (live humbly), and I know how to abound (live in prosperity). Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." (Philippians 4:11-13)

Christ will strengthen you when the enemy comes at you with every distraction and temptation  "No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able  but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it (ENDURE!)." (1 Corinthian 10:13)

Focus on the Lord and His promises for your life. And when the enemy sends thoughts of comparison your way, just begin to praise God and thank Him for His faithfulness and all that He has given you. "Praise is the language of faith. Be thankful!" -Dr. Larry Lea The enemy will eventually leave you alone because he doesn't speak that kind of language. Resist him with your gratefulness to God and he has to flee from you! And if you do end up in a pit-remember, it isn't permanent. Praise will save you out of the Pit and Jesus will pick you up out of the Pit. God will use it all for your good and will turn your mess into a message!

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